Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Sending back..

Yesterday, a friend of mine told me a true story that happened to a girl from a rural area. the story is like this...
one family who live in kuching go to the rural area to get a wife for their son, so they manage to pick one and both parents agreed for their child to be married to each other. after the wedding is done, the girl was brought to kuching to live with her husband's family. Then when she was there, she did not perform well as a wife, according to my friend, she hardly do any of the house chores. This attitude has cause her in laws dislike her.
Then her husband's family plan of a vacation back to her village in the rural area. i guess she must be so excited after staying with the in law for some time, finally she got to meet her family. but what happened next i guess will be the last thing on her mind, the husband's family sending her back for good, and annul her marriage with her husband.
well friends, i thought that is the meanest thing ever happened to a girl. She was married to a stranger, taken from her family, being incompetent as a wife, and the in laws plan behind her back to get rid of her, humiliate her whole family and relatives. how do you think she live her life after that??if i were to be in her place, i would probably commit suicide. Her story is being told again and again from mouth to mouth to this very day.
and what i hate the most is that, people who told the story to others is like so proud of the man's family who did tht thing to the girl, i think they must be dumb to be proud of such cruelty. And from my point of view, the man's family is coward enough to face the girl to tell her straight to her face that they don't like her, coward enough to accept her by who she is, coward enough to be responsible of their own decision of getting her married to their own son, and coward enough to teach her to be a good wife.
To that girl, i hope she will be strong, it is way better not to live with the dumbs and cowards, and to suffer because of them.
To the man's family, you claim her by marriage to be part of your family, yet you never accept/own her as part of you, don't even think that you had give her back, because you had never have her.

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